Self-Help Books

     Whenever you are working on improving yourself, your mental health, and the quality of your relationships I believe that self-help is essential. It contributes to therapy and personal growth by adding additional insight. I recommend these resources to all of my clients who need them. I have group them according to the issue that they address. Each of these I have read myself. And although the titles may refer to one gender versus another, I find that the concepts can be equally applied regardless of gender. Thus, I recommend texts for all of my clients.

     This list isn't an all inclusive, but they are books that I frequently recommend and find to be extremely insightful to my clients. When reading books that are recommended, I suggest that you take notes and highlight "aha moments" so that you can process what is coming up for you. It is also a good idea to journal about these thoughts that come up, and address the issues which may have triggered you in therapy. 

For Commitment Phobias

Men Who Can't Love: How to Recognize a Commitment Phobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart  by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol

Getting to Commitment by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol

He's Scared She's Scared by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol

The Emotionally Unavailable Man by Patti Henry


Toxic Relationships and Codependency

Women Who Love Too Much by Robyn Norwood

Toxic Relationships: How to Regain Lost Power in Your Relationship by Kimberly Brasher

Toxic Men: 10 ways to Identify, Deal With, and Heal from the Men Who Make Your Life Miserable by Lillian Glass

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Dr. Susan Forward

Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Dr. Susan Forward

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg


For Abandonment, Attachment, and Trust Issues

Black Swan: The Twelve Lessons of Abandonment Recovery by Susan Anderson

The Journey From Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson

Emotional Unavailability: Recognizing It, Understanding It, and Avoiding It's Trap by Bryn Collins

Attached: Create Your Perfect Relationship with the Help of Three Attachment Styles by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson


Anxiety and Mood Disorders

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund Bourne

Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel By Changing the Way You Think by Dennis Greenberger and Christine Pedesky

Anxiety + Depression: Effective Treatment of the Big Two-Occurring Disorders by Margaret Wehrenberg


Other Useful Tools

Phone Apps

   The Worry Box

24-Hour Crisis Resources

National Suicide Hotline (800) 273-8255 

National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

John George Psychiatric Pavilion (510) 346-1300

Sliding Scale Counseling Services:

I understand that not all client's can pay for psychotherapy services. I have offered a list of low fee sliding scale community counseling services. Most of the clinics that offer sliding scale use therapist interns, thus they may not offer clinicians that are experienced and specialized in a specific issue.

Earth's Circle

Berkeley Therapy Institute

Open Path Psychotherapy Collective

Alameda County Behavioral Health Services

Inspirational videos

Working through anxiety, destructive thoughts and finding inner peace through gratitude

Tony Robbins at Oprah's Life-class